Towards the end of your journey in high school, you will start to realise that wow, time really doesn't wait for anybody.You will feel unprepared, nervous, scared, and yet excited and hopeful all at the same time. Do not fret. It is all part of the process, of independence, of growing up, of going out into the world.
I trust your parents would have prepared you well, they would have started to let go of you, toying with those strings of the kite, letting it roll out and then reeling you back in, until it is finally time and the wind decides to carry you away to start your own little adventure.
Yes, I sound oh so hippie, cliche and philosophical, but hey, I suppose all us teen-semi-adults would agree that it is a phase you will inevitably go through. You will one day sit down, and just think, day dream, imagine, and then actually realise what it means to be finishing high school...
These friends with which I have come to know, to trust, to rely upon, we will soon be very very far apart... :S What will happen when we no longer see each other everyday? When we can no longer just pick up the phone and call them when we want to because it's just too bloody expensive, or you just have no time? What will happen when you need a shoulder to cry on, when you just need to chew somebody's ear off or just want some time away from it all? Will those bonds we forged when we were 13 be enough to hold us all together?
Yes, new friends we will make, but it doesn't mean old friends we forsake, correct?
So when do friends cross that line and become not just your friends, but your family? Your family who will stick by you no matter what, who will always be there for you, who are obliged to take those 2am calls of distress, those moments when you need someone to bail you out, who love you for you.
I suppose there is no real answer is there? You just know it.
I once read an article which gave me a totally different outlook on the subject of friendship. It talks about how people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime, and when you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
I loved this because it helped me get over friends that have drifted so far away from me or that I just lost contact with or just stopped talking to for no reason.
It said...
" When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant."
In most situations, attitude is what determines the result. I suppose with friends, with life, with the choices we make, our attitude remains the deciding factor in how it will all turn out in the end. How you decide to approach the situation, determines which path you will eventually take.
So be open to new ideas, different prospects, challenges. Take a chance, live life, commit to your choice and have no regrets. Let life take you to new heights you'd never thought you'd reach, to places you'd never imagined you'd be. You'd be surprised.
I may be young, but experience has taught me to never say never, because when you actually do turn around, you'd be so amazed at what you've achieved.
It was definitely worth it.
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